Brooke Shields’ new memoir, Brooke Shields Is Not Allowed to Get Old, offers a candid look into the actress and model’s life, covering topics from aging and sex to her marriages and children. Released in January 2025, the book delves into personal experiences and societal pressures faced by women over 40. Shields’ journey with the book began with her haircare brand, Commence, a platform initially aimed at women over 40. It evolved into a brand catering to this demographic, and her agents encouraged her to share her own experiences.
The book explores the challenges and perceptions women face in areas like marketing, the beauty industry, and everyday life. Shields expressed surprise at the limited representation of women over 40 during an event in New York. This article highlights some of the most revealing excerpts from her memoir.
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Tom Cruise’s Apology for Antidepressant Criticism
In 2005, Tom Cruise publicly criticized Shields for using antidepressants to combat postpartum depression. He deemed her actions “irresponsible” and claimed medication wouldn’t provide a cure. Shields responded with a New York Times op-ed titled “War of Words,” defending herself and women struggling with similar issues. She revealed in her memoir that she disregarded her publicist’s advice to ignore Cruise’s comments.
Shields felt compelled to address the “irrational and dangerous comments” made by Cruise, whom she considered unqualified to speak on the topic. Following the incident, Cruise apologized to Shields in person at her home. While Shields acknowledged the apology, she didn’t consider it particularly heartfelt.
Shields’ ‘Violent’ and ‘Excruciatingly Painful’ Miscarriage
Following an irregular pap smear in her mid-30s, Shields underwent a cone biopsy that revealed precancerous cells. The procedure, while necessary, significantly impacted her cervix. This led to difficulties conceiving and a traumatic miscarriage during her first IVF attempt. Shields described the experience as one of the worst in her life, characterized by intense physical pain. She questioned if scar tissue from the biopsy contributed to the severity of the miscarriage pain.
She later learned that the cone biopsy likely caused her fertility struggles and the agonizing miscarriage.
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Unconsented Labia Rejuvenation
Years later, Shields consulted with a gynecologist about discomfort related to her labia. She learned that a cosmetic procedure could address the issue. During the surgery, the male doctor performed a labia rejuvenation without Shields’ consent, making her feel violated and disregarded. The doctor’s dismissive attitude and implication that the procedure was a “bonus” further angered Shields. She felt betrayed and objectified, highlighting the importance of informed consent in medical procedures.
Relief Over Not Having Children with Andre Agassi
Shields expressed relief in her memoir that she didn’t have children with her first husband, tennis star Andre Agassi. Their marriage ended in divorce after two years. She revealed Agassi’s harsh words following their separation, emphasizing his lack of support had they had children. Shields, now a mother of two daughters with her current husband Chris Henchy, recognized the potential for a disastrous co-parenting situation with Agassi.
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Agassi’s Alleged Body-Shaming
Shields also recounted instances of alleged body-shaming by Agassi during their marriage. Despite her successful modeling career, Shields admitted to insecurities about her body image. She recalled asking Agassi if he would still love her if she gained weight, particularly during pregnancy. His response, “I love you too much to let you get big and fat,” left her feeling hurt and insecure.
This incident further underscores the complexities of their relationship and the emotional toll it took on Shields.
Shields’ Current Sex Life and Diminished Drive
Shields candidly discussed her current sex life, revealing a decreased libido attributed to age and the unauthorized labial surgery. Sex has become uncomfortable, leading her to avoid intimacy with her husband. To enjoy sex, Shields now relies on lubricants and specific environmental factors. She also mentioned considering testosterone therapy to address her diminished drive.
Her openness about these intimate details sheds light on the challenges women face with aging and sexual health.
