A man on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum is seeking advice after his wife became angry with him for not planning a surprise birthday trip, despite the couple agreeing to forgo travel due to financial difficulties. The man explained that his wife loves to travel for her birthday, and they had taken trips to Brazil and Europe in previous years. However, these trips, coupled with health issues, left them with significant debt and minimal savings.
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Furthermore, the couple is planning to have children this year and require medical assistance to do so, adding to their financial burden. The man stated that he and his wife had “long talks” and mutually agreed that a birthday trip was not feasible this year.
Broken Agreements and Unrealistic Expectations
Despite this agreement, the wife expected a surprise trip and became furious when she realized there wasn’t one. She claimed she never agreed to forgo travel and insisted her husband should have known she wanted a trip regardless of their financial situation. In an attempt to appease her, the husband offered to book a last-minute trip, but she refused, stating he was only doing it because she forced him.
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The Reddit community overwhelmingly sided with the husband, criticizing the wife’s selfishness and unreasonable expectations. Many commenters questioned her disregard for their financial struggles and her willingness to go back on their agreement. Some also raised concerns about the couple’s financial readiness for parenthood, given the wife’s insistence on prioritizing travel over financial stability.
Financial Responsibility and Future Planning
Commenters urged the husband to have a serious conversation with his wife about their financial priorities and long-term goals. They emphasized that travel is a want, not a need, and should not come before financial stability, especially when planning for a family. Several users pointed out the significant financial responsibilities that come with having children, including unexpected expenses, and advised the couple to postpone starting a family until they are on the same page financially. The overwhelming consensus was that the wife’s behavior was unreasonable and highlighted a potentially deeper issue within the relationship regarding financial responsibility and communication.
